The advice column has now reached the point where it must become bi-weekly in order to cover all of the questions sent. If you do not see your question in this edition, check out Thursdays posting. As always, all questions can be sent to my email box, Xxoozero@yahoo.com, and will be answered the same week it is sent.
Dear Zero…
I have this friend Carrie, she is really cool and we are VERY close. We spend almost 24/7 together, and we like the exact same stuff. We have also dated before, about 4 years ago. Of course we have feelings for each other, but it never went anywhere. So I look for another girlfriend somewhere else. I meet this girl Jess and Carrie gets really jealous. I end up spending alot of time with Jess. So I get a call from another one of my friends who is also Carrie's friend, and she wants to talk. So I meet my friend and she tells me that Carrie is in love with me, and even said something about her wanting to spend her life with me. But Carrie cannot date me yet because she is still hung up over her ex. Of course, i am completely in love with Carrie too. But should I wait for Carrie or should I just move on? I can really use some help on this one.
Beware: if Carrie is still hung up on her ex then she won’t be dating material for a very long time. This is her problem, not yours. Tomorrow is promised to no Spartan, live for the moment brother!
If Carrie does happen to snap out of it sometime in the future, you always have the option of leaving Jess. When that happens, write back, I’ll be around. For now, move on. Don’t waste your life waiting for someone else to come around. Respect the fact that your days on this earth are limited and act accordingly.
Dear Zero…
There is this girl that I dated for about 6 months before we broke up. She was a little hesitant on going into the relationship, but did anyway. Overall it went great, and we love each other, but she decided she wants to be single. She said she loves me but is not in love with me, making a relationship hard. Now I respect that so I didn't have any issues with the break up. Now we are best friends and she and I have a few flings here and there, but nothing major. However, we both get pretty jealous of the other's friends or any new people in our lives; is that fair? Is it ok for her to get jealous of my female friends and me of her guy friends? Sounds childish. Also, when we are not hooking up, I always feel like I'm missing out; is it wrong for me to go hook up with some other girls (namely ex's and sluts cause they fucking swarm my area)?
When you are not hooking up with her you feel like you’re missing out because you are. If exes and sluts are swarming your area you need to take advantage. Go out with a few different girls and watch your jealousy disappear magically. Like I told the man before you and will continue to tell men like you until the day my lungs finally give way to Cancer or some other such self-inflicted disease, live life like you won’t wake up in the morning.
Since the beginning of time wise men have been saying “Every girl you do not sleep with is just another girl you can’t say you slept with the day you die.” Live your life according to your own timetable, not a woman’s.
Dear Zero…
Here the situation… I met my wife when we was 16 we have been together for 5 years and married for 2 ½, but here’s the problem. For the past 2 1/2 years I’ve been fucking with percs… vics… ocs… shit like that and I lie to her about it all the time. She’s left me over it about 7 times and the last time was about 3 1/2 months ago. I’ve been off the pills for 3 months now and trying to get her back but she says she can’t believe me. Any advice at all?
There is no way you can tell her you are off the pills; you have to show her. Some things just can’t be said after so many lies. You need to put your life back together in more of a noticeable way. She needs to see with her own eyes that you have changed. No amount of you talking to her is going to convince her at this point.
If it is what you want, keep up with your soberness. Your estranged wife will eventually see for herself you are off the dope. When that happens, if it was meant to be, she will come back on her own. If not, well then, lesson learned. It’s a tough one, for sure, but one we all learn sometime in our lives.
****One last thing to everyone: for fucks sake, I hope you are all practicing safe sex. 1 in 4 people have AIDS, 1 out of 3 herpes, and every second chick you sleep with will give you gonorrhea. Those are not real statistics, but you live your life by those numbers you won’t have to think twice before putting a condom on.
That was my public service announcement for this year. I hope you all learned something.